Have you ever heard these words from a woman, “He is such a
momma’s boy”! Yes most women do hate to have to share their man with his
mother. Yes, we know this ladies, but you really must know the difference
between a real “momma’s boy” and a man that is family oriented. Knowing the
different will do two things 1. It will cause you to save your time, because
you are really dealing with a momma’s boy. Or 2. It will cause you to
understand the man has a very strong family foundation.
The Momma’s Boy
When dealing with a momma’s boy you know before he makes any
decision he will call his mother. His mother is always over at the house, there
just isn’t any breathing room for your marriage or relationship to grow. This
for you is bad and for the man he’s trying to balance both his relationship
with his woman and his mother. Most women will not waste their time with this
situation and most women cannot be talked into wasting that time either.
Most of his conversations will begin with my momma says, my
momma thinks, my momma does, my momma will. This man probably doesn’t know how
to iron, cook, do laundry, let alone separate colors from whites. Most women
who can handle these projects will take them on, (God speed to you!) those who
cannot will definitely avoid this.
The Family Oriented Man
When dealing with a man that is family oriented you must
understand a couple of things. When this man is speaking with his mother it is
out of respect, it is to ensure that the rock of the family is okay, this is
not a bad thing ladies. If a man can’t check on the woman that birth and raised
him, what makes you think he will check on you? A man will always bring you
around the women of his family to get that infamous “second opinion”. The
saying goes “A man knows another man and a woman knows another woman”. This is
a good thing ladies, if a man never brings you around his family he feels that
there are some characteristics about you that he either questions or he knows
it throws up a red flag.
The difference between the momma’s boy and this man is that,
yes he will take the advice given by the women in his family, but at the end of
the day, the decision is his to make and he will make decisions on his own.
When a man brings you around family period this man is trying to get his family
use to seeing you and you use to seeing them. In my family we have a saying
“There are no in-laws, it’s just family”.
Sometimes a woman needs another woman
to talk and sometimes a man can sense that so, when you see him walking out the
door and he looks back and asks “You good”? or “You gon be aight”? Use that
time that moment to connect with his mother and you may find out why he’s so
good to you, why he’s as respectful as he is, mothers know their sons and if
you want to have a better relationship with that man, start with his
foundation. (P.S. You just might get an embarrassing story or two, okay maybe a
couple.) Remember don’t try to change a man because others say so, if he treats
you good, he love you and he doesn’t make you cry (unless he’s proposing), let
him be who he is and you’ll be glad you left him as is.
~Be Blessed~
